Have your cake and eat it

This subject is very closely relative to my last post "Straight Shooter". In light of recent events I found it necessary to conclude it with the ultimate in selfishness. That one character flaw that drives me as crazy as the next person. Individuals who have to "Have their cake and eat it to".

This saying is timeless, and has been used for years. I find myself using it more and more when I reflect upon the instance that inspired me to write this entry. Allow me to elaborate a little on what exactly I am speaking of.

For 3 months I had an interest in someone. This someone had lead me to believe that I was the Bees Knees, the Cats PJ's, so I continued to let my guard down and learn to have feelings for them. I had shared my horror stories of deception with them, as I had trusted them enough to do so. They had empathy for my plight and wondered how anyone could do such horrible things to such a great person. Little did I know they were doing the EXACT same thign to me, all the while listening to my anguish from prior experiences.

So this person who had me, and my trust and undivided attention, decided to have another on the side. Telling him the exact same things as I was told. To lure me in and get me where they wanted me. What was this all for? A PLACE TO LIVE! So by having her cake and eating it to, she has lost BOTH opportunities and lost the trust of many people.

In the end her selfishness had cost he my trust and respect, the people I introduced her too, and she had burned MANY bridges along the way. I am not sure as to what her motive was other than making sure she was going to get what she wanted. However, in my eyes this person will never be trusted, EVER again. So why put people through torment for some personal gain? Why "Have your cake and eat it too"?

My point is this. Be honest and be TRUE to yourself and others. Once you begin losing the respect of your peers, you begin losing control of your life. You will have to continually jump from person to person, group to group, and possibly town to town. The search will land you in other peoples arms, only to repeat the process over and over again. There is an alternative. Out your selfish ambitions away and keep and be honest with your fellow man and woman. Lead them into the light, instead of leaving them in the darkness. I realize there are things in life we need, but at what cost do we obtain them?

When we have a party, we share our cake. Share your cake with the world, and the world will share theirs with you.